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Most people do not think or consider the child's feelings durring the divorce process or the aftermath of the process most children either feel abandoned or to blame.  What if you cried for feeling abandoned younger than eight?  You woud feel like you are to blame and that everything is your fault.  Most people can not comprehend the wonders that run through a young child's mind.  Children can also blame themselves for the divorce, especially if they overhear the parents arguing over something the child has done around the time of the divorce ( Cathy Meyer ).  This says how children blame themselves and why they may.  It is for a few reasons, they all take a small part, but all hurt one in the same.  In believing that a person can cause things to happen just by thinking or wishing it, “magical thinking” serves a special purpose for the child. It helps the child to feel a sense of power and control over life ( Paul Wanio ).  This is where many children get the thought that they can control anything if they just simply believe.  Also, that many children think that what they think will always come true, like in a fantasy.  Hence, some children have the tendency to blame themselves, feeling that it is because they had something to do with it why their parents never say anything. Many children find it especially beneficial when both parents talk to them about the divorce and explain to them that they will both always love and care for them ( Percy Ricketts ).  All which show that children blame themseleves and try to fix it with their minds.