Works Cited

"Children and Divorce: Helping Kids Cope With Separation and Divorce." Helpguide.org: Expert, Ad-free Articles Help Empower You with Knowledge, Support & Hope. Apr. 2010. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

Crest, Mason. "A Phone Call from the Principal." Advanced Placement Source. EBSCO, 2008. Web. 14 Apr. 2011. <http://web.ebscohost.com/src/detail?vid=8&hid=108&sid=ff80706d-0c28-4d1e-9fe8-0f8d2f97f4f3%40sessionmgr10&bdata=JnNpdGU9c3JjLWxpdmU%3d#db=nfh&AN=2W63192724439>.

Dush, Claire K. "Child Success Depends On Family Stability." Medical News Today: Health News. 1 Sept. 2009. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

Elliot, Lorna. "Could a Child Choose Which Parent to Live With? - Law And Parents." Your Rights and Responsibilites as a Parent at Law And Parents (UK). 21 June 2010. Web. 06 Apr. 2011. http://www.lawandparents.co.uk/could-child-choose-which-parent-live-with.html.

Epstein, Reid J. "Village Resident, 20, Enters Mayor's Race." Advanced Placement Source. EBSCO, 11 Apr. 2011. Web. 14 Apr. 2011. <http://web.ebscohost.com/src/detail?vid=7&hid=13&sid=ff80706d-0c28-4d1e-9fe8-0f8d2f97f4f3%40sessionmgr10&bdata=JnNpdGU9c3JjLWxpdmU%3d#db=nfh&AN=2W61296229528>.

Hart, Archibald. "Stress at Home - Focus on the Family." Focus on the Family: Helping Families Thrive. 25 Jan. 2010. Web. 06 Apr. 2011. http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/your_childs_emotions/childhood_fears/stress_at_home.aspx.

 

Legere, Laura. "Agency for the Homeless Finds Its Own New Home." Advanced Placement Source. EBSCO, 1 Mar. 2011. Web. 14 Apr. 2011. <http://web.ebscohost.com/src/detail?vid=14&hid=111&sid=ff80706d-0c28-4d1e-9fe8-0f8d2f97f4f3%40sessionmgr10&bdata=JnNpdGU9c3JjLWxpdmU%3d#db=nfh&AN=2W62645773742>.

 

Meyers, Cathy. "How To Meet Your Child’s Need For Security." Divorcesupport.com. Jan. 2011. Web. 10 Apr. 2011. http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/meetingyourchildsneeds/ht/childsneeds.htm.

My Wordle for My Blog, Wordle.com. Personal photograph by author. 2011.

 

Naik, Abhijit. "Divorce Statistics." Buzzle Web Portal: Intelligent Life on the Web. 16 Mar. 2010. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

New, Miranda. "Helping Your Child Through a Divorce." KidsHealth - the Web's Most Visited Site about Children's Health. Jan. 2011. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

Ricketts, Percy. "Percy-ricketts.com » Blog Archive » Children Blame Themselves for Divorce." Dr Percy Ricketts, Psychotherapist, Nationally Ceritified Counseler, Parenting Consultant. 8 Feb. 2008. Web. 14 Apr. 2011. http://percy-ricketts.com/wp/?p=35.

Reflection Paragraph on Sources

My sources were very trustworthy sites, because I used Ebscohost; however, alot showed alot of bias in them as well.  The websites that were not bias were mainly for information purposes only or done by a psychologist who worked with these people and found out alot about the children in these situtation.  The biased ones and the factual ones were both very helpful to me.  The biased ones showed me where either the child or he adult came from and how they felt; however, a factual website gave me information and statitics on the number of children in this situation.

Reflection Paragraph on Process

This project was moderately fair.  It was hard to find resources that had all of the requirements and still stay within my topic.  However, it was easy because it was a topic I enjoyed and wanted to know more about, as well as, the fun and creative websites we used; such as, Wordle.  Next time I would of not picked such a "touchy" topic, it made it harder to find real cases and stories about people's childhood.

Wordle #2

Reflection Paragraph on Findings

My findings were very miraculous.  I did not know that the percentage cuts in half for every re-marriage.  The main reasons for divorces are the fact that they cannot live together, or cheating.  Also, men are more known to cheat then women, because they do not feel like the marriage was all it was it was supposed to be with that person.  When people cannot live together, this really effects the child because the child has to see them either argue or physically fighting; which is really bad for the child, especailly if they were arguing over something that involved her/him.  I still do not know why people do not try and live together first, statistically. 

Finding Paragraph #3

As well as my other research, I have conculded that there will always be questions worth answering.  Such as,  does a divorced child just want to have stablility in their lives?  Basically, children just want to have a stable and loving home like any other child.  Most children just want expect and abuse the love they recieve from their parents, while divorced children, just envy the love those children recieve.  The analyses indicate that compared with peers who grow up in stable postdivorce families, children of divorce who experience additional family transitions during late adolescence make less progress in their math and social studies performance over time. Furthermore, family resource differences before and during late adolescence either partially or completely account for the less positive performance trajectories in two types of divorced families.( Sun, Yongmin and Li, Yuanzhang ).  This explains that during their childhood children's grades slip and they become trouble makers; as a result, this could lead to a low GPA and possibly effect their college choices and their careers.  They may even become a high school drop-out, which is bad for them and the economy.  Some kids may run-away to find the love they never felt from their parents and to get away from the gilt, so they then become homeless.  Then schools become a place of stability for the children.  For a homeless student, school is the one thing that perhaps doesn't change ( Barbara Duffield ).  This is a simple statement that is very true, families, homes, and friends may all change, but school will always be the same.  Box by box, a nonprofit agency that has helped provide homes and stability to homeless women and children in the region for nearly three decades is moving into its own steady home ( Legere, Laura )  This shows that there are organizations trying to help these children if they say speak up and say that they need and want help; if they do not then they will not recieve the help they need. 

Finding Paragraph #2

Most people do not think or consider the child's feelings durring the divorce process or the aftermath of the process most children either feel abandoned or to blame.  What if you cried for feeling abandoned younger than eight?  You woud feel like you are to blame and that everything is your fault.  Most people can not comprehend the wonders that run through a young child's mind.  Children can also blame themselves for the divorce, especially if they overhear the parents arguing over something the child has done around the time of the divorce ( Cathy Meyer ).  This says how children blame themselves and why they may.  It is for a few reasons, they all take a small part, but all hurt one in the same.  In believing that a person can cause things to happen just by thinking or wishing it, “magical thinking” serves a special purpose for the child. It helps the child to feel a sense of power and control over life ( Paul Wanio ).  This is where many children get the thought that they can control anything if they just simply believe.  Also, that many children think that what they think will always come true, like in a fantasy.  Hence, some children have the tendency to blame themselves, feeling that it is because they had something to do with it why their parents never say anything. Many children find it especially beneficial when both parents talk to them about the divorce and explain to them that they will both always love and care for them ( Percy Ricketts ).  All which show that children blame themseleves and try to fix it with their minds. 

Finding Paragraph #1

When people get married and divorced they do not think of the children and the emotional toll it takes on the child.  How do you think children feel if they had to make a life changing decision?  Most people do not think about how a child may react to such a rash decision, such as, who would they want to live with. If a child is already 15 years old, it’s important to bear in mind the fact that the process of obtaining a residence order can take between six months and a year (Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister).  Some doctors are also concerned about the mental development that may be missing or the parts that may be over working.  The home — the family environment — creates the stress problems that so many children experience later in life. It's in the home, therefore, in the family, that the solution to the problem lies (Dr. Archibald Hart).  People have done research to find out about where the child may end up mentally in their life and if they will have a decent chance at having a stable relationship with their parents, especially their fathers.  Empirical findings suggest a wide array of interrelated, entangled factors that predict father involvement and link father involvement to child adjustment (Ahrons and Tanner).  After the divorce is finalized and the child can no longer have the decision of whom they which to live with, then the child maybe stable enough to decide; however, they will no longer have that option.  Going through one divorce is hard on a child, adding to the stress, and the sadness would just be crazy.

Quote, Summary, Source Analysis, and Citation #5

"Whether and how fathers maintain relationships with their children is dependent on an interaction of complex factors. Because of this complexity, the literature is confusing and often conflicting regarding factors and mechanisms that affect the relationship between father involvement and child adjustment, especially following parental divorce. Empirical findings suggest a wide array of interrelated, entangled factors that predict father involvement and link father involvement to child adjustment."

This quote is about the fathers and their relationships with the children who are now on their own.  This is logos because it is strictly factual and percise.  It talks about how their relationship will most likely be; however, every situation is different.  A father should be in a child's life in some way, and if a child has that involvement then the child will have a succesful relationship with their father.

Ahrons, Constance, and Jennifer Tanner. "Adult Children and Their Fathers: Relationship Changes." www.psychologytoday.com. N.p., 25 May 2007. Web. 7 Apr 2011. <http://www.psychologytoday.com/files/attachments/46779/fr-article-fathers.pdf>.

Quote, Summary, Source Analysis, and Citation #4

"According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the divorce rate per 1,000 people in 2005 (the latest study) was 3.6, which is the lowest rate since 1970. The rate has slowly decreased from 4.7 in 1990, then 4.2  in 2000.
Although divorce rates are steadily decreasing, the outlook for marital bliss gets bleaker for those who marry a second time. A National Center for Health Statistics study in 2002 showed that almost 25 percent of second marriages end within five years. Significantly, the study also showed that at least 40 percent of women with children will see their second marriage fail within 10 years."


This quote mainly talks about the statistics of  divorces and how many divorces have occured within the past ten years.  This is logos and research because you would of had to do research to find this information.  It is all numbers, statistics, and percentages.  It states that in 2005 there had been a record low of 3.6 percent of divorce in all first marriages.  Then within the next five years of getting re-married 25 percent get another divorce.  Then it jumps to 40 percent chance of divorce within 10 years of the second marriage


Buirley, Tristian. "Teens Can Suffer from the Fall-out of Divorce." The Flyer. 25 Jan. 2011. Web. 07 Apr. 2011. <http://www.fairmontflyer.com/features/2011/01/25/teens-can-suffer-from-the-fall-out-of-divorce/>.

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Marriage Statistics. Web. 4 Apr 2011. <http://www.biblenews1.com/marriage/marriags.htm#Total%20Divorces>.

Quote, Summary, Source Analysis, and Citation #3

"Grandparents would win new legal rights for access to their grandchildren after divorce under proposals to be announced today." This just simply states that in the United Kingdom grandparents may now gain custody of their grandchildren if the court thinks it is best fit for the child or children and if the grandparents are sutible and are willing to take care of the kids.  This is logos and research because it is a fact fromt he United Kingdom Times newspaper.  One thing I do not understand is, how come they could not gain custody before 2011?

Gibb, Frances. "New Divorce Laws Will Guarantee Grandparents Access to Children." EBSCO Publishing Service Selection Page. 31 Mar. 2011. Web. 04 Apr. 2011. <http://web.ebscohost.com/src/detail?vid=4>.

Photo, Caption, and Citation #3

In this picture there is a sad boy sitting outside of his home.  This is most likely because of fighting and/or being with someone they do not want to live with because his parents got a divorce and he did not get to chose whom he wanted to be with.  Being that the child is not 15, 16, or 17 he will most likely not get a say in who he wants to live with.  Most of the time the parents will not let the child talk to the judge because they are minors and the parent wants what they think is best for the child or children.  The judges also do not want to put the burden on children on picking one of their parents.  For example, a child would not need the responsibility of picking a favorite parent during the divorce itself.

Radnus, Anne E. "Ocala Divorce Lawyer Blog: Parenting Plans and Time-Sharing Archives." Ocala Divorce Lawyer Blog :: Published by Ocala, Florida Divorce Attorney Anne E. Raduns, PA. 7 Jan. 2011. Web. 04 Apr. 2011. <http://www.ocaladivorcehelp.com/parenting-plans-and-timesharin/>.

Quote, summary, source analysis, and citation #2

"Thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce each year. How they'll react depends on their age, personality, and the particular circumstances of the separation and divorce process."

This quote basically states that the experience of stress due to divorce for multiple years effects how they will react; however, your age, the situation, and your mind set also play factors, as to, how you will react in the situation.

In this article you will find how to help your child through the divorce, starting with how to tell them to parenting during the situation.  Also you will find how to answer the questions your child may have and how to help them feel better.

New, Michelle. "Helping Your Child Through a Divorce." KidsHealth - the Web's Most Visited Site about Children's Health. Jan. 2011. Web. 28 Mar. 2011. <http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/help_child_divorce.html>.

Photo, Caption, and Citation #2

In this picture they show a little girl trying to not listen to her parents arguing.  This mainly happens when parents happen too young and have kids without seeing if they can live together under one roof before they decide to have children.  In most cases the parents split and then the child must go through a time that she/he is unstable.  In other words, the child is constantly switching homes between their parents/guardians during court, which can last atleast 1 year for custody trials.
I received this picture from "Child hearing her parents fighting." Web. 21 Mar 2011. <http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjmYy0OS24Mm26-JNIGGamGlz8jFK4R57AfAa-8e8fxAYRJ5Y0H46Qnb9i-Gd4DtF35Rkt86pB1o_SbHmrLwVqIEC9FM_XpI6VWsOPasVg670f1UObQKiktTgC3v9rpM0DbgTX3Kn-I8g/s1600/iStock_000013343605XSmall.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.ifyourparentsdivorced.com/2010_09_01_archive.html&usg=__zs6GtyPtUDitwSGrbkMvFRsyecw=&h=282&w=425&sz=166&hl=en&start=33&zoom=1&tbnid=mq8vmoyYxW39wM:&tbnh=106&tbnw=148&ei=oByCTfzLNoOlcd6LlYkD prev=/images%3Fq%3Dchildren%2Bin%2Bdivorced%2Bhomes%26hl%3Den%26safe%3Dactive%26gbv%3D2%26biw%3D1020%26bih%3D537%26tbs%3Disch:10%2C902&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=718&vpy=279&dur=500&hovh=183&hovw=276&tx=159&ty=101&oei=hByCTbrcLMubtwfA8ojWBA&page=3&ndsp=17&ved=1t:429,r:16,s:33&biw=1020&bih=537>.

Quote, Summary, Source Analysis, and Citation #1

" The advantage that children get from living in two-parent families may actually be due to family stability more than the fact that their parents are married.  A new study finds that children who who are born and grow up in stable single-parent homes generally do as well as those in married households in terms of academic abilities and behavior problems. "

Dush, Claire K. "Child Success Depends On Family Stability." Medical News Today: Health News. 1 Sept. 2009. Web. 16 Mar. 2011. http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/162479.php.

This quote is about how children who grow up in a single - parent home have the same amount of stability as a child in a two - parent home; however, if you have shared custody  it takes away that stability.

Photo, Caption and, Citation #1

This picture shows a child and her parents being torn apart. It also shows how the little girl is sad that her parents are getting a divorce. I chose this picture because it shows that every child is sad when thier parents get a divorce and that it will effect them the rest of thier lives.

"Child in divorce." Web. 21 Mar 2011. <http://www.inkingrey.com/uploads/images/1270297512-c4.jpg>.

Wordle

Preliminary Links

"Children and Divorce: Helping Kids Cope With Separation and Divorce." Helpguide.org: Expert, Ad-free Articles Help Empower You with Knowledge, Support & Hope. Apr. 2010. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

This article was written by four women; Jocelyn Block, M.A.; Gina Kemp, M.A.; Melinda Smith, M.A.; and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. They all tributed to this article to help adults help thier children get through divorce.

Naik, Abhijit. "Divorce Statistics." Buzzle Web Portal: Intelligent Life on the Web. 16 Mar. 2010. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

This article is written by Abhijit Naik. This person wrote this article on 16 March 2010. This website gives statistics of divorce rates by state to show how many kids/families go throw divorce per state.

New, Miranda. "Helping Your Child Through a Divorce." KidsHealth - the Web's Most Visited Site about Children's Health. Jan. 2011. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

This article was written by Michelle New. This was published in January 2011. It talks about how to help your child not to feel abandoned and to get through divorce, so they will not have trouble later on in thier lives.

Dush, Claire K. "Child Success Depends On Family Stability." Medical News Today: Health News. 1 Sept. 2009. Web. 14 Mar. 2011. .

This article was written by Claire Kamp Dush who was in college at Ohio State University. It was written on 1 September 2009. It was mainly to how a child's success depends on a child's stability in thier school years.

Should a child have stability?

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What I want to know

There are a few things I wonder about my topic.  One is how would you feel if you had to make a life changing decision?  Another is what if you cried for feeling abandoned at age six, or younger than eight?  Thirdly, what if you had to ask where am I sleeping tonight?  Fourthly, how do you think they want to live, rich with tons of money or like everyone and just have a kind and loving family?  Last I want to know should a child ever wonder if they were to blame of the struggles in their life?

What I already know about my topic

When a child grows up with living in four homes over the course of two weeks, they no longer function and trust the ones they love.  They wonder where they will stay that night or who their real family is, and it is all because their loved ones made and make stupid decisions.  When a child grows up hearing anger and yelling and fighting, they will most likely turn to an object or person in which they know there is no anger and hatred in their voice.  However, all children who do not have caring and stability in their life will see everything and everyone differently.  They may not trust someone or ever feel that they can ever be loved.  They may think that, that is the way of life and that is how you treat your children or family members or friends.  I want to know just how these people will develop later on in life.

The story behind my topic choice

Have you or someone you know had a complicated childhood?  Have you ever wondered how you or someone else will mature based on what other people's choices?  A small child who does not have a stable home and a place they can call their own throughout their life is a sad and curious child as to where they will stay or what will happen to them that night.  They envy their loved ones who are stable and want to be with them.  They want to feel the love and support that they receive because they do not receive those themselves.  I choose this topic because I personally know people who are not in a stable home and I wonder how their outlook on life is and what it will become.  I also want to know how other people's choices affect a young child's perspective on life later on as teenagers and adults.